Dear Gabby,
I recently met this great guy and since then we have had several dates.
Everything has been going great, so far; however, I’m kind of second guessing myself. We have had some amazing dates so far, and I seem to find myself wanting to be with him more and more. But we are kind of opposites, but opposites attract right?
Anyway, after nearly three weeks of “dating”, I was thinking it’s time to make this official. So I was hoping he would ask me to officially be his girlfriend this past weekend—but that didn’t happen.
We originally had plans on Saturday to go out for dinner and a movie, but after I got all ready he never showed up. I waited and texted him and then texted him again…but no response, I haven’t heard from him since.
Do you think I scared him away because I was hoping to make our relationship official, or do you think he’s just busy? What would you do?
Sincerely,
Where are you
Dear Where are you,
Well, first off save yourself some self esteem issues and tell yourself it’s not because you aren’t funny enough, thin enough, or pretty enough.It’s simply him. Go with the simple “it’s not me it’s you” remark .
I think in general it’s very important to follow through with commitments and plans—which he clearly didn’t do, in my opinion. I think if he still wanted to continue this relationship he would’ve let you know somehow that he would have to cancel the plans on Saturday.
Obviously the fellow got cold feet or something along that nature. Don’t worry though there are more fish in the sea—so cliché I know, but sometime cliché things help.
Don’t play the crazy potential girlfriend and constantly call and text. I would take this as a sign that he isn’t ready to commit to a relationship. I would just let it go and move on—don’t analyze. It sounds like you both didn’t have the same hope of this relationship, which is fine.
Be patient with yourself you’ll find someone who is your match and who also has the same goals as you.
Good luck,
Gabby