Dear Gabby,
I am a 27-year-old college student who is looking to move out from my parents home. While my father is okay with this, my mother is very hesitant in letting me go. I have told her that I feel too old to still live at home, and have let her know that I am able to handle the responsibilities of paying rent and other utilities, but she just wont let it go. I’m ready to move out in the middle of the night, while she and my father are asleep, but I don’t want it to come to that. What should I do?
Sincerely,
Moving out
Dear Moving out,
Sounds like you’re in a bit of a pickle. Personally, I think it’s always a tough situation when parents are involved—no matter what the conflict is. There’s a fine line, especially with parents. You don’t want to irritate them, because if we admit it, we all just want to make our parents proud. However, there are always those moments when we feel like we’re being tied down or controlled. I’m certainly not speaking for everyone else, but I think we encounter similar situations every once in a while with our own parents. So you’re not alone with feeling like your wings are cut.
Your mother should trust herself that she raised you right, and that you can survive on your own. Of course you’ll experience bumps in the road, but that doesn’t mean you wont get back up and try again. Try to show her your perspective. Although it might be hard for her to see, I think it will help her understand what you’re goals are, and why it’s important to move out. On the other hand, see her side too. Remember even though you’re 27, mama bird still wants her baby bird to be safe.
Show your parents that you are responsible enough, and that you can do it. Start looking for a place on your own and handling your finances to show that you’re serious about this move. I think if they see how hard you’re working toward this goal and how important it is, they’ll open their eyes.
Good luck,
Gabby