Dear Gabby,
I have been at my job for about 2 months, and I love it so much! I feel like I am getting closer to my dream job and that I am moving in the right direction.
However, there is one problem—I really dislike someone I work with. It seems impossible to get along with her, and unfortunately, we have a lot of projects and work assignments we have to complete for our job. I am trying really hard to ignore her, and just focus on doing our tasks, but she’s so irritating.
I’m worried that we’re not going to be able to get work done and be productive. It feels like she constantly is nagging me or throwing me under the bus when it is actually her problem.
I don’t know how much longer I can take it. I don’t want to give it up, but she really irritates me. It’s starting to affect my work, and I don’t want to lose focus just because of her.
What should I do? Should I talk to my boss about my coworker’s behavior, or should I ignore her? I’m almost to the point of quitting, any advice?
Sincerely,
Coworker Trouble
Dear Coworker Trouble,
Believe me, everyone experiences this. It’s such a tough situation too, because you want to accomplish your goals, but when you have an enemy at work, its hard to focus.
I don’t know the whole story or the issues that are really at hand, but I think it’s important to stay focused on the task and do your best. You can’t control her, but you can control yourself. So, if you make sure you’re doing your best, then that’s all you can really do.
From what you’ve said, I would say try to stick it out. Get stubborn and show her that you can overcome her attitude problems.
I guarantee you will come across so many people you dislike at your job and in life. I don’t think it’s good to just run away from it because it’s frustrating.
If you feel like it’s worth it to talk to her, then take the step to meet with her to talk about how you can make it work. Personally, I sometimes feel like that just creates more issues.
I think if you can focus on yourself and make your work ethic stronger, then that’s all you need to worry about. You’re going to have learn to work with people you dislike, but the sooner you learn that and find ways to overcome those problems, it’ll help you in the long run.
Good luck,
Gabby