Dear Gabby

Dear Gabby,
My girlfriend and I started dating in the summer of 2014, and I fell for her quickly. When we first started dating I felt like she was the one. Everything seems to just work, except she goes to a college four states away. It’s so hard to be away from her, but I know I need to let her accomplish her goals. Recently, we’ve been arguing more and I am starting to think maybe it’s just easier to let her go. I don’t want to, but I fear that it might be the best for her, and for us. I know some people make long distance relationships work, but I don’t know if it’s possible for us. I don’t want to take the easy way out, but maybe it’s for the better.
Sincerely,
Lost in love

Dear
Lost in love,
Long distance relationships are one of those things you have to stand back and analyze for a minute—do the benefits outweigh the drawbacks? Can you see yourself with anyone else at the moment? What are the pros and cons? What would you regret if you let her go?
I think it’s important to think about multiple perspectives and different scenarios because that will give you a better understanding of your relationship. I always like the saying, “nothing thats worthwhile is easy.” I think a strong foundation is necessary, along with acknowledging the small moments. Create things to help you get through the long months apart—write in a journal about her, create a photobook of the both of you, send her a care package. I guarantee she’ll appreciate these things.
Lastly, I think you should double think, or even triple think, about how much you love her. Don’t drastically turn the corner just because there’s a few bumps in the road. No one knows what the future holds, but I think every situation deserves hope. If there are more problems besides the distance, then communicate with her, but if it’s just because you aren’t physically together, then work on making time for one another—whether it be calling each other during the day or Face timing more. The more obstacles you overcome together as one, the stronger your foundation becomes.
Believe in love,
Gabby