Dear Gabby,
This is my first time spending Christmas with my girlfriend’s family. We’ve been dating for almost a year now, and I just feel lost on how to deal with it all. I feel comfortable around her and I’ve met some of her family outside of the holidays. Should I get her relatives gifts too? Or is it okay to just show up with hers? Is there something I can do to let them know I appreciate being included but without coming off as superficial?
Sincerely,
Reindeer Gameless
Dear
Reindeer Gameless,
This is really exciting! One positive note is that at least you’ve met some of her family before, so it won’t be as awkward. I think the most important thing is to be yourself. If you expect this relationship to last long term, then I think it’s important to start creating a bond with her family. I don’t think you should buy an expensive gift for her relatives, but I think maybe a small gesture would be nice to acknowledge her family even if it is a bouquet of flowers and a card or a gift card to her mom’s favorite store. I would keep it small and simple. Just show your appreciation and focus on socializing with her family. I think the holidays are a special time, especially if you get to spend it with someone you love. Enjoy this first Christmas with her family because when you look back, it will be a cherished moment.
Enjoy yourself,
Gabby