Dear Gabby,
I recently just got out from a three and a half year relationship during the beginning of summer, and things ended pretty badly. I have not talked to her since and I’m really curious on how she’s doing. I’ve been debating to call her or not, but sometimes my pride takes control of me, or maybe its just me telling myself that I’m just going to get hurt if I do.
Sincerely, What to do
Dear What to do,
Sometimes I think its best to leave it alone. Whatever happened, happened for a reason, and it may be better for you both to let it be. Personally, I feel as though keeping a small connection, even if it just means that you’re catching up is
just bringing up the past. While you’re focusing on the past, neither one of you would be able to move toward a new future.
You never know what doors could open for both of you, if you just let it go. If you are really set on talking to her, even if it just means small talk, ask yourself some questions. What are you really trying to accomplish? How will it benefit you both? If those questions are hard to answer or can’t quite think
of an answer, then I think you should move on and let the
past be the past. Don’t be a gravedigger. As much as it hurts, sometimes it’s just pouring salt in a wound that needs to be healed as quickly as possible for you to move on. Yes, curiosity sets in, but let yourself develop without her and let her have time. You both may just need some time to breathe and learn how to let go.
“Dear Gabby” is written by Managing Editor, Gabrielle Sharp. The views and advice expressed in “Dear Gabby” replies are solely the opinion of Gabrielle Sharp. They are not reflective of the Clarion or Sinclair Community College. Gabrielle Sharp is not a professional counselor, and her advice shouldn’t be taken as such. If you think you are in danger of hurting yourself or others, please visit a professional counselor.